First Times

I CAN REMEMBER THE FIRST TIME AND WHERE I MET MOST PEOPLE IN MY LIFE.  WHERE WE WERE, WHO INTRODUCED US, MORE OR LESS THE MONTH AND YEAR ETC....  HOW OFTEN DO I TAKE THOSE PARTICULAR TIMES FOR GRANTED WHEN I MEET SOMEONE? ANYONE?  THE FIRST TIME WE MEET EACH OTHER, SHOULD BE SPECIAL.  IT IS.  TWO PEOPLE THAT DIDN'T KNOW EACH OTHER EXISTED NOW KNOW EACH OTHER BY NAME.

  I FEEL LIKE THE FIRST THING WE DO IS IMMEDIATELY START SIZING EACH OTHER UP.  IS THIS A PERSON I WANT TO GET TO KNOW? IS THIS A PERSON THAT i WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH? IS THIS A PERSON I WANT TO DATE?  ETC...  IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO NOT MEET SOMEBODY AND BEGIN TO JUDGE THEM.

FIRST TIMES ARE IMPORTANT.  FIRST TIMES DICTATE HOW I WILL TREAT YOU THE NEXT TIME.  HOW YOU WILL TREAT ME THE NEXT TIME.  IF YOU START OUT WITH A BAD FIRST TIME, YOU START IN A HOLE THAT YOU, OR THE OTHER PERSON MUST DIG THEMSELVES OUT OF IN ORDER TO CONTINUE. 

WHEN WE ARE MEETING SOMEONE IMPORTANT, WE TEND TO VALUE THESE FIRST TIMES.  HOWEVER, WHEN WE ARE JUST OUT AND GET INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE NEW, WE TEND TO BELITTLE IT'S IMPORTANCE.  WHY? BECAUSE OF WHAT IS OFFERED.  WHAT IS ON THE TABLE.  MEETING A BOSS AT A NEW JOB, A LOT IS AT STAKE.  WE HAVE A POINT TO PROVE.  MEETING SOMEONE ON A DATE, WE WANT TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION. 

I'VE FOUND, FOR MYSELF ATLEAST, THAT THE HARDER I TRY TO MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION, THE MORE AWKWARD THE SITUATION.  I AM MY BEST WHEN I DON'T CARE MUCH.  I AM NOT SAYING TO THROW CAUTION TO WIND ON FIRST IMPRESSIONS, BUT THERE IS A FINE LINE OF PLACING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE WITH WHOMEVER IT IS YOU ARE MEETING, AND NOT ENOUGH.  LIKE MEETING THAT NEW PERSON AT THE BAR, THAT YOU SAY HI TO, AND JUST WALK AWAY.  EVEN IF THAT CONVERSATION IS 2 MINUTES.  IT IS IMPORTANT.  NOT FOR WHAT IT OFFERS YOU, BUT FOR THE SAKE OF IT. 

I THINK IF WE THOUGHT THAT EVERYONE WE MET VALUED US AND REALLY RESPECTED US. WE WOULD HAVE MUCH MORE CONFIDENCE IN MEETING PEOPLE AND GETTING OUR IDEAS ACROSS, AND GROW IN COMMUNITY.  AND IF WE TREAT PEOPLE WITH THAT SAME RESPECT, IT WILL ONLY SPREAD.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

Comments

Ryan, this is so very true! Great insights! My mother-in-law has had a little slip of paper in her bathroom for years that says "If you meet me and forget me, you have lost nothing. If you meet Jesus and forget Him, you have lost everything." It is the one thing I hope to inherit from her. Keep posting!! Vicki
 

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